About me
I Never Dreamed That One Day I Would Have Everything I Wanted In My Life
Waking up to the reality that life was happening to me, was painful and frustrating. Once I had made the decision to live my life, my way, there was no looking back
My Story
I'm Jules Whale, Life Coach, Hypnotherapist, Time Line Therapist
Working with mature, emotionally vulnerable women requires them placing a lot of trust in me. So, in the spirit of sharing, here is a bit about me and my story.
I live in rural Dorset with my soulmate husband Alan and our two dogs. We have 5 grown up children and 7 grandchildren between us. We are renovating an old house so downtime is fairly limited, although we love walking.
Life is pretty idyllic although it wasn’t always like this. In fact it was a very long way from idyllic.
My Past Struggles
Seeing the Truth: Realising the Depth of My Struggles
I had come out of a long and difficult relationship, which started with me leaving a comfortable stable home aged 18 to live with my husband and our two babies in a rundown shared house.
He was a gambling addict and I identified as a victim. There were protracted bouts of domestic violence and gas lighting.
When my husband was diagnosed with terminal cancer, I decided that I didn’t have the courage to leave. When he passed away I felt a weird mix of desperate sadness and relief.
After the funeral I remember sitting alone in my kitchen with my head in my hands. I was quickly coming to the realisation that I was in debt up to my ears, resentful, guilty and feeling completely done with my life.
Realising Change Was Needed
The Turning Point: Recognising the Need for Change
Outwardly I was in control with a good career. I headed a sales team and luckily was able to keep a roof over our heads. I think I’d have carried on like this until I died, which is a harrowing thought now.
Despite raising my kids and holding down a successful career, I had literally come to a standstill with nowhere to turn and feeling I dared not share any of the negative stuff I was experiencing. This would show an out of control version of me.
In fact the driving thought which had run through my life was, what will people think of me?
I realised that every decision I was making had everyone else at the centre of it, never what was good for me.
My external image was one of cool aloofness, capability, strength and dedication. What a great job I’d done in hiding all of the dark stuff.
My inner me was, in fact, very dark very broken and washed up. I had run out of steam and had nothing left in reserve. I felt I’d wasted my life and was too old to change anything.
Little did I know what an amazing life lay ahead!
Transformation Through NLP
Finding Freedom and Renewal Through NLP
I met an NLP (neuro linguistic programme) life coach who asked “How do you want to be?” I replied “It can’t be this simple, can it?” She said it can if I wanted it to be.
Wind on from this meeting to today and it turned out that it can be this simple!
Today I am debt free, living the best life with my brilliant husband and bringing NLP life coaching to my clients.
When they say that it’s too late to change I assure them that it’s not.
When they ask “it can’t be this simple can it?” The answer is “Yes! Absolutely, you can live life your way.”
If you want help with finding your way to live your best life.
How I can help you
Breakthrough Day
Are you a busy mature professional looking to inject some rapid changes into your life? As incredible as it sounds, you can ditch every one of your negative beliefs in one day.
If you prefer a supercharged approach to creating your best self, a Breakthrough Day could be the perfect option for you.
Imagine benefitting from 6 months of life coaching and hypnotherapy in a single, supercharged day.
Blissful Rebalance
Are you so busy with life that you forget to recharge your emotional batteries? You may be juggling work and personal life, albeit not very well. Worries tend to get buried as life races by, but these worries will keep resurfacing until they are resolved.
How about a Blissful Rebalance session? 90 minutes of peace, calm and balance with hypnotherapy, breath work and relaxation to float away your stress and replenish your mind with positivity and peace.
Empower.Her Empower.Him
Do you put yourself on the back burner when it comes to how you fit into your own life? Maybe you shy away from those big life goals through a lack of confidence. You may be struggling with social anxiety or impostor syndrome? You probably don’t know what is holding you back, but you do know that you compare unfavourably to others.
If you are struggling with this state of mind, these coaching sessions are perfect for dismantling your negative beliefs over a period of time. Each session is designed to move you forward to living your best life.